It wasn't until church this morning that I actually got to hear what Chapman's 5 languages actually are (imagine my shock and awe when punching and food where not on the list!). They actually really resonated with me both as things that for the most part I think I successfully do, but also as things I very much crave in relationship. As a part of a sermon encouraging us to speak out our faith we were encouraged to listen, watch and learn what other people's love languages are (in A.Z. language - felt needs) and speak them (real deeds).
Chapman's languages are:
- Words of affirmation - aka encouragement
- Quality time - aka spending time with someone and making them the focus of that time
- Gifts - the giving, the recieving, the treasuring
- Acts of service - allieviating the burdens, meeting the needs
- Physical touch - we need this to survive and grow
So as you're going through your life - take some time to think about those who are surrounding you; coworkers; family; friends; neighbours; housemates; community and see if you can listen for those languages. If you can't hear them, pray and ask that you would. It can't hurt to have a little more love in the world.