The Politics, Lies, Backstabbing, Love and Joy of Housing

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I'd like to start with some info about who I 've lived with, where and when:

• Dec 83 thru August 01: Bev*, Bruce* and John in 556 Carman Rd
  
• Sept 01 thru April 02: Suzanne, Andrea, Odessa, Dharshika, Krista, Carolyn and Stephanie* in Dorm 18
• May 02 thru August 02: Marie, Ruth, Dan, Deb, Ginny* and Karen in 67 Ward Ave^
  
• Sept 02 thru April 03: Lara and Lindsay in the basement of 20 Kipling St
  
• May 03 thru Aug 03: Bev*, Bruce* and John in 523 Carman Rd
• Sept 03 thru April 04: Krista* in the basement of 1 Bermuda Ct
• May 04 thru Aug 04: Marleah* in the main floor 40 Roselawn Ave
• Sept 04 thru April 05: Marleah*` and Lisa` in the main floor 40 Roselawn Ave
• May 05 thru Aug 05: Mira and Gayle in the main floor 40 Roselawn Ave^
• Sept 05 thru April 06: Jo and Karmyn* in the main floor 40 Roselawn Ave

* = engaged or married while i was living with them
` = graduated and/or moved away
^ = subletting situation

Since I moved out of my parents house 5 years ago Marleah is the only person that I have lived with for 12 consecutive months. 40 Roselawn is the only the only place that I have lived for more than an 8 month period. I have moved 6 times and change roommates 9 times, and I still have 8 months of 2006 to cover yet.

I realize that due to some of the choices that I made in my life that the classic and coveted "make friends with people in first year, live together second year, RA together 3rd year and get an off campus place together 4th year" is just not available to me. I'm ok with that. But I am getting a complex. Why can't I get people to live with me? Ok, maybe I'm being a little dramatic. Housing situations have fallen apart because people have got married or graduated or I was only subletting or they were only subletting. Its not really the end of the house that makes me want to cry, drink, tear my hair out and move to Siberia.

What kills me is putting a house together. Now I don't know if guys have the same problem but in my experience and in the stories I've heard from other women, well I think it would be best to have CIA and Navy Seal training to put together a house full of girls. Why can't we just be honest with each other about this whole thing? Why can't I ask someone if they want to live with me and have them straight out tell me that they think I'm a drama queen and they don't think they could handle living with me. I'd still be friends with them after they said that. (I might be inclined to point out that I'm much less of a dq at home than I am with the outside world.) And why do women, who are naturally communicators, stop communicating when housing is involved? Why does one part of a group tell someone their house is full when the other part of the house is inviting more people to live with them? Or why tell someone that you're only going to live with one other person and then turn around and live with 4 or 5 others? Why say that you don't know what you're doing for housing when you're really looking at 2 or 3 different options?

I love Jesus and He loves me. So if you tell me that you don't want to live with me I'll be ok. I won't hate you or curse you or be hurt for 6 weeks. I imagine lots of other women are the same. Have some respect for yourself and for the people you love and tell them the truth. Sometimes you just shouldn't live with someone, you can still love them a lot, a lot, but not be able to live with them.

All of that being said...I need a place to live for the summer and for the 06-07 school year. I need it to be cheaper than the place I'm living in right now and I would prefer that it was above ground. If you know of anything would you please let me know.

Thank you

(ps I can't wait 'til I'm married and don't have to worry about finding a roommate any more)

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